The first six sessions
Once you have come to your free first exploratory meeting, and if we both agree that working together may be a good idea, then we can plan to meet.
To start with, I ask you to make a commitment to meet for six sessions.
After these six sessions together, we will reflect on whether going further with this work will be right for you. Only after these six sessions can we make a more fully informed decision about this work.
How often do we meet?
When starting out, people work with me for one hour every week; this allows them to experience the regular and consistent support often needed for real change to take root.
Being in therapy is an important and significant commitment that you can make to your own well-being. It requires a sustained commitment, and isn't something to enter lightly.
It is an act of real care to make space in your life for this kind of inner work, and like anything else truly worthwhile, it requires an investment of time and money, energy and commitment.
How long do people work?
People work with their psychotherapist or counsellor for different lengths of time, according to their needs and wishes. The choice always rests with you.
Some people choose to come for a short period, perhaps just a handful of months. My experience suggests that at the very least you should be thinking about a minimum of about 14 to 16 sessions, about 4 months or so. This seems to be the bare minimum needed for some change to take root, and sometimes this is also all that is needed or wanted.
However, people generally work for longer than this. People often work for many months or even years, to help them make significant and lasting changes, to navigate major life transitions, or to help them as they make their inner journey.
Privacy, confidentiality & supervision
Working with a psychotherapist is a precious opportunity to experience a relationship that is entirely private, anonymous, and, in a sense, neutral. It is very different from talking things through with family, friends and colleagues. All that you share with me always remains confidential.
I am supported in my work by an experienced supervising therapist, but your identity is never revealed to this person. Working with one's supervisor like this should be standard practice for all counsellors and therapists; professional supervision is vital for good practice.